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Turning an empty glass into a full one,,,


Blogging is new to me. I had thought that possibly putting my Love Explosions on my blog would help myself and others,,, However I have found that reliving these experiences throws me into a deep depression including anxiety, sleeping to much and  lowered resistance to illnesses around me,,

I had 2 more extremely depressing articles ready to publish but found my blog to be a horribly depressing experience and I didn't want to return to it,,, I thought of the failed Atlanta VA Hospitals attempt at helping PTSD patients heal by making them relive their Vietnam experiences,, The rate of suicide actually increased in the Veterans that completed the coarse. My 32 year marriage and my 2ond husband was a victim of this,

So I began to think of how I have survived and how to turn myself around again,,,
I needed to fill these empty glasses ASAP:


Glass 1. I can not define my wonderful marriage to my first husband by its final day but rather filling my glass with wonderful memories of the good times we had together as teenagers skating, swimming, fun with friends and so much more. He was a rare and wonderful man and it was a privilege to be be his wife for even that short time,, He was an officer and a gentleman and loved me with 100% of his heart,,

Glass 2. I can't define the relationship with my mother and father by their short comings but by their strengths.. My mother was a great housekeeper, cook and loved her family,, My father loved to take me and my brothers fishing and camping in tents and sleeping bags by the clear lakes,, He worked hard and I was raised in a good community and a clean home

Glass 3. I can't define my son's life by his death, My son Frank was a diamond among men. He was a karate champion and was  on TV at Battle of Atlanta,,, He was in plays and loved to do music with his mom,, He was to be a missionary.. I am still very proud of my wonderful son. He was so loved by so many. Thank you God for allowing me to be his mom for that short time,,

Glass 4. I can't judge my 32 year marriage as a failure because it was 80% success,, He was in the prison ministry and helped so many,, I could rock that keyboard and he loved it and so did the prisoners,, The guards said they would sing all week,, The prisoners would come back and do Christain rap that they had put together for me, It was wonderful. We had a successful truck repair.. and a beautiful 23 acres that we raised our children on. It was wooded with 2 steams,,  He and my sons would hunt and keep my freezer full.. They chopped wood and kept my home warm for me,, The days when everyone elses power was out, I had warmth and had hot coffee,, I was well cared for,, I can not define that as a failure,,

So you can look at your glass 2 ways:

Empty, defeated and depressed-
Alcoholic mother, divorced parents, loss of son. loss of 2 husbands 

or

Full - 2 husbands that tried hard and did well, 2 parents that worked hard and loved their kids.  

 I am thankful for all that was given to me and I am thankful for the good times,, I have had 2 good marriages and have a wonderful family, I was blessed to be Frank Pendergrass's mother, Barry's wife and Harolds wife.

So this is how to heal.
Fill your glass with good memories.

Don't let anyone tell you that you failed at life..

 Fill your glass...  

I feel so blessed and thank the Lord, my parents, my 2 husbands and my family for everything..





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